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Monday, July 28, 2014
Thursday, July 24, 2014
Black men often are dead last in everything. Why? Because they don’t make themselves a priority. And because they often put the needs of others above their own they don’t achieve their goals.
The main reason Most Black men over the last 40 years don’t put themselves first and make their goals in life a priority is because they were raised by single mothers. And one of the things many Black men who grow up in single mother households grow up learning is to put the Black woman first. To please her. That if she’s happy he’ll be happy.
It’s one of the biggest lies they were ever told.
Many brothers put women first out of a sense of guilt after hearing the horror stories from their single mothers That because the “man who did her wrong” and put his needs above everyone elses’ it made her life and theirs go nowhere. So these boys grow up striving to not be like their fathers. They grow up believing that if they put themselves first, they’ll be just as selfish as their fathers were.
However, it’s not selfish for a man to put himself first. A man who puts himself first shows he has a healthy self-esteem and self confidence. Putting yourself first does not mean a man doesn’t care about others. It means he cares about himself enough to take care of his own needs so he can take care of the needs of others such as his family.
What is putting yourself first Black man? Taking care of yourself. Keeping yourself clean. Keeping yourself healthy. Working out. Paying your bills. Buying the things you need to take care of yourself. Pursuing your hobbies and interests. Making time for yourself and the things you want to do, and making sure you do accomplish whatever you set out to do in life.
A man putting himself first is also requires him to set boundaries and establish standards for how he will be treated by others. Men who put themselves first establish rules for how they will be treated and what behavior they’ll accept from the people in their lives from DAY ONE. And if people cross those imaginary lines in the sand THEY ARE GONE. PERMANENTLY.
Too many brothers let women and nonblack on their jobs guilt and shame them into minimizing the importance of their goals, and making themselves into the second most important person in their lives.
Seriously, Black man WHO are you living for? WHO are you working for? WHO are you having a relationship for? That’s right YOU. And YOUR needs and the goals you aspire to achieve should be more important than any job or woman in your life.
Remember, Black man, you have a value. And if you don’t show people why YOU are valuable they’ll use you to get their needs met and their goals accomplished. Then they’ll leave you in the dust as they move forward in their lives.
In order for a man to lead others, he has to be first. And the man who puts himself first shows others his goals and needs are a priority. And because others see him putting his goals and needs FIRST they support whatever mission he’s pursuing.
People follow leaders. And no one follows the Black man because he is too scared to put himself FIRST.
Most Black men hide behind women. They hide behind their job. They hide behind their children. They hide behind their mother. And because they hide behind people, no one sees him, no one recognizes what’s great about them. To the world, the Black man is just there. Invisible insignificant and forgotten.
If a man does not show the world he cares about himself enough to put himself FIRST he can’t get others to care about his goals. To care about his program. To respect him and value him as a MAN.
Too many Black men grow up learning how to please women and put them first. And when they have a mindset of pleasing the woman and making her needs a priority above their own, they become followers, not leaders.
This is why most Black women do not respect Black men today. Most Black men, especially the ones who grew up in single mother homes don’t see how their dysfunctional way of thinking is keeping them from achieving any success in life.
Men who put women first chase women and beg them to have relationships with them. They beg for sex. They beg managers for jobs and beg even more for promotions. They beg for friends. They sacrifice their personal power and intangibles of manhood.
And as they sacrifice their personal power and personal intangibles of manhood, these Black men settle for less and get scraps from the table of life as they wait for what’s left over after everyone else gets what they want from the table. People tolerate these men, pity these men, but they never respect them. Sadly, These men go to their graves never understanding that the reason why they get second best out of life is because they put themselves and their needs last and the needs of others first.
Black man, it’s time to put yourself first. God gave you one life. And He didn’t give it to you to be the Pullman Porter of the world cleaning up the messes of Black women, White men, and the rest of the world. He has a purpose for you in this world and a work for you to do. But in order for you to do that you have to put yourself FIRST. If you don’t see yourself as valuable no one else will. Go for yours and get what you want out of life.
Monday, July 21, 2014
Saturday, July 19, 2014
Wednesday, July 16, 2014
Over the last 40 years The Negro has amassed $3.3 trillion dollars in spending power. $1.1 trillion in cash and another $2.2 trillion in credit. However, most businesses in the world do not take the Negro dollar seriously. Why?
Because the Negro does not value himself.
For all the Negros’ talk, about concepts such as Group Economics and Pro Blackness his actions say he is all for the status quo.
What the Negro does not understand is that business owners don’t listen to talk. They follow the dollars. And when they watch how the Negro spends his dollars they know they have absolutely nothing to worry about when dealing with him.
The Negro is the only person in the world who does not value his dollar. He spends with anyone and everyone who isn’t Black. In fact, he picks nonblack people to spend his money with FIRST. Most nonblack business owners are so confident they can count on a Negro dollar that they spend their business campaigns targeting Hispanic customers in inner-city areas.
To nonblack business owners Negro customers are an afterthought. Just there. Someone to take for granted.
And because the Negro does not value himself or his dollar he is regularly given the poorest quality products and even poorer quality service. Businesses believe they can give a Negro cold fast food, rotten and expired groceries, and pass off knock-off merchandise as genuine. And while he buys these poor quality products these business owners can follow him around, verbally abuse him, and scrutinize his money for its authenticity.
And the saddest part is the Negro will sit there and accept substandard as standard.
I thought it was 2014, not 1914. But go to any Black shopping district and it’s clear that Jim Crow is still the unwritten law of the land when it comes to the Negro.
Business in America takes the Negro Dollar. But they don’t value it. Why? Because the Negro NEVER GIVES BUSINESS A REASON TO VALUE THEM.
When it comes to business, the Negro is the quietist person in the room. And his silence SPEAKS VOLUMES to Business owners.
Moreover, his lack of action speaks louder than his words. Every time he returns to a nonblack business who verbally abuse him, racially profile him and he is sending a MESSAGE to them that bad customer service is perfectly good business when it comes to the Negro.
Even after the Montgomery Bus Boycott 60 years ago, the Negro still doesn’t understand that the world runs on MONEY. And that business NEED MONEY to survive. Businesses don’t listen to protests. They don’t listen to activists’ speeches. They look at the MONEY. Where the MONEY goes they GO.
And as long as the Negro continues to take his money back to establishments that mistreat him, they have no incientive to RESPECT HIM OR VALUE HIS DOLLAR OR TAKE HIM SERIOUSLY.
Why take a customer seriously if they don’t DEMAND better? Why should a business go out of their way to cater to a customer demographic if said customer makes no EFFORT to INSIST on buying ONLY QUALITY PRODUCTS and will accept SLOP and JUNK from said merchant? And why should a business even take said customer seriously if THEY KEEP COMING BACK FOR MORE SLOP and JUNK?
The Negro doesn’t get new products from businesses because he does not value his dollar enough to watch where he SPENDS it. Businesses follow dollars. And when they see the Negro heading back to continue to buy the same old products day in and day out, they have NO INCENTIVE to give the Negro BETTER. Because the Negro does not value his dollar, no one else values it.
Sure, these nonblack people spend the Negros’ dollar. But no one CARES where it comes from. For the nonblack business owner a Negro dollar is no different than a piece of Scottissue. Something to wipe their ass with.
All because the Negro flushes his money down the toilet.
The only person who can make people value the Black dollar is the Negro. Only he doesn’t see its value because he does not value himself.
The Negro is one of the richest groups of people in the world $3.3 trillion dollars in spending power is in his hands. But he still acts like he only has a net worth of $5. The only way to show the world the true value of the Black dollar is to participate in Group Economics and spend it with Black-owned businesses. But until the Black man and the Black woman value themselves to spend it with Black people FIRST, no one else in the world will take the Negro dollar seriously. It is what it is.
Monday, July 14, 2014
Danger! Three months after her encounter with Isis, Dr. Raheema Sanders transforms herself into the Cybergoddess, a creature with powers far greater than Isis'. Determined to replace the order of gods with an order of science, she plans to kill the goddess and remake the world in her own image. Can Isis, stop this Digital Diva before she implements her mad plan?