Some who read my blogs think I’m a misogynist.
That’s the furthest thing from the truth.
If I hated women, why would I write a book like The Thetas
that provides one of the most positive pictures of Black female life. A book
acclaimed and praised by women fpr presenting a fair and balanced picture of womanhood. A book that is on its way to becoming one of my more
popular novels.
If I hated women why would I write a book like All AboutMarilyn which shows women how actresses are treated by the entertainment
industry. Another book that’s also acclaimed and praised by women all over the
world.
If I hated women why would I write All About Nikki, a sitcom
featuring a Black FEMALE lead. That
series of books has proven popular all over the world and presents Black women
in a positive light to
Moreover, if I hated Black women why would I be going out of
my way to begin work on a Kickstarter to get a pilot for an All About Nikki
produced?
If I hated women why would I write a book like A Recipe For$ucce$$ which features a Black female lead and teaches Black women how to move
ahead in the business world?
If I hated women why would I write Tween/Teen./Young adult books like theIsis series which feature Black female heroine and is designed to give little
Black girls the Heroine who looks like them, and has hair their natural texture
and teaches them about their history and their culture.
If one looks at my record they’ll see I care very much about
women, especially Black women. But there’s a small contingent of women out
there who want to call me a misogynist. They’re upset because I write blogs
calling out Women’s reckless, irresponsible, immoral, reprehensible, and
egregious behavior.
Now in some of my blogs I am critical of women, especially
Black women. But the reason why I am so critical of women is because I care
about them.
The Black woman is the transmitter of culture in the Black
community. And when the Black woman is immoral and participating in
irresponsible behavior like having random sex with any old male, having
illegitimate babies by random men, and participating in acts of violence like
street fighting, the culture of Black people is being poisoned.
And when the culture of a people is poisoned, the children
of those women learn a culture that harms not only them, but the next
generation of children. This is why we have boys who are effeminate, and girls
who think the are masculine. This is why we have boys who think that sodomy is
a heterosexual act and girls who think babies come out of their backs. Black
culture is dysfunctional because the Black woman is lost and confused to what
her identity is in America.
Brainwashed by the ideologies of Lesbian White Feminists and
White Liberals 40 years ago, Today’s Black woman believes that she can lead
herself. But under her incompetent leadership, the Black community is falling
deeper and deeper into a ditch. As she continues to try to make the
dysfunctional ideologies of White Supremacy and feminism with work with God’s
natural order that rejects these ideas, the Black race continues to move
backwards instead of going forward.
Some call this Putting the square peg in the round hole.
Doing the exact same things and expecting a different result. The textbook
definition of Insanity.
And as she transmitting the dysfunctional ideologies taught
to her by her White Liberals and white feminists to the next generation, they
grow up lost and confused too.
If I didn’t care about women, especially Black women I’d
remain silent. I’d just sit back and write books and blogs that pandered to
women and soothed their egoes and make a stack of money off their pain. I’d
just sit there and entertain Black women by telling them how great they are,
and how nothing is her fault. Take their money and tell them what they wanted
to hear instead of what they needed to know.
Books like the ridiculous Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man
By Steve Harvey. Movies like those made by Tyler Perry and Lee Daniels. TV
shows like Shondra Rhimes’ Scandal. Prosperity sermons like those preached in
the Black Churches. Products that exploit Black women by playing to their
emotions. Products that reinforce the idea that Black women believe they are
VICTIMS.
But I don’t want to get rich off Black women. I want to
enrich their lives. I want women to
start taking responsibility for their actions and start taking responsibility
for their behavior and start taking actions that are constructive to them.
That’s why I tell them the truth. And yes, the truth hurts.
But without the truth women can’t start the process of
healing.
When I was working at STRIVE 13 years ago with the homeless
ex-offenders and drug addicts, I learned that pain is good. And pain is what
leads to people growing and making the changes they need to their lives.
Yes, I am blunt. Yes, I am no-nonsense in these blogs. But I
know that’s what women need.
Yes, I’ve used words like slut, ho, and side piece in blogs.
But I want women to know what you’re being called when they act a certain way.
Blogs like What Women don’t know about Being The Side Piece, The Silence of
Black Women, Why 70 Percent of Black Women are Single and Why Real Men avoid
Single Mothers are meant to show women how the world really sees them.
We’ve had too many men sugarcoating things and not telling
women the painful truths they’re going to need to swallow if they’re going to
survive in this world.
They think if they lie to women and try to protect them from
the hardships of life they’ll get a chance to get laid.
I don’t put vagina on that high a pedestal. I value women
from the neck up, not the waist down. Women need to know for every action,
there’s an equal and opposite reaction from the world, and they have when they
behave in a reckless, irresponsible, immoral, reprehensible or egregious way
they will be held accountable for their actions.
The truth is the people who hate women are the ones who
refuse to tell Black women the truth. It’s the Tyler Perrys, the Steve Harveys,
the Lee Daniels, The Oprah Winfreys, The Shondra Rhimes, the Church Pastors,
Simps and Manginas who pretend to be your friend by giving women a free pass
and make excuses for their reckless, irresponsible, immoral, reprehensible or
egregious behavior.
These are the misogynists. These are the men and women who
hate women.
It’s their enabling that allows women to remain in a state
of poverty and misery. And they want women to remain in this state. Exploiting
Black women’s pain is a $1.1 trillion dollar business.
The truth in my blogs is bad for business of these hucksters.
They can’t sell their snake-oil in the forms of books, movies, DVDs, seminars
and sermons.
Now I sell Books too. But those sales aren’t as important to
me as seeing Black women grow to become better women and making efforts to
teach the lessons they learn to their children so they can become better
people.
Some of the women who read my blogs may think I’m a bitter
misogynist. But that’s the furthest thing from the truth. People who truly love
us tell us the truth. They don’t sugarcoat things. Because they know while what
they say may hurt today, tomorrow that person can finally start the healing
process and go on to being a better person.
I would like to give you props, your blog is the truth. I would like to ask you, what's your view on woman that say "God will send me a good man"? I think that should be a subject you should touch. Thanks and keep spitting that hot fire.
ReplyDeleteThank you for taking the time to read my blog.
ReplyDeleteI may touch on the subject of Black women who ask for God to send them a good man next week.
Thanks and I appreciate that. Reason why I ask is because i hear a lot of woman saying god will send them a good man. To me that's like me saying I'm going to hit the million dollar jackpot but I never play the lottery. But thanks again and I'll keep my eyes open for that post....
ReplyDeleteResponse blog is up: http://shawnsjames.blogspot.com/2013/12/black-women-pray-to-god-for-man-but.html
ReplyDeleteJust got finished reading. I salute you, good post you gave me a better insight on this subject. Keep up the good work...
ReplyDeleteThanks for taking the time to read the blog. I always try to write on a subjuect if a reader requests it.
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