I was reading online about the Chinese man who killed
himself after enduring his girlfriend's five-hour shopping spree. According to the
article, she wanted to keep shopping for shoes. So he threw all the merchandise
over the seventh floor railing and then threw himself over killing himself
instantly.
It’s clear to me that along with the credit cards in her
purse she also had his testicles in there too.
What happened in that mall in China was a clear case of a “Nice
Guy” who had no idea on how to deal with a woman. He was probably the kind of
guy who put this woman on a pedestal and worshipped her. To keep her happy, he
probably bought her anything she wanted and never said NO to her.
Seriously, what man would stay in a mall with a woman for
five hours straight? Most guys will plan out with a woman how many stores they
were going to and how long they were staying before heading out the door and
make her stick to that schedule.
And when she said one more store, a Real Man would have
walked away from her and let her keep shopping. Then after she took a cab home
from shopping till she dropped he would have dropped her. Because a woman who
can’t respect her man’s feelings has no respect for him.
Better yet, he just wouldn’t have gone shopping with her at
all. If she’s got her own job, she and her girlfriends can go shopping together.
They can spend all day running around in malls trying on clothes and buying
things. Most trips to the mall with a woman are usually five to six hours long.
This is why a man tells her to go with her girlfriends. Most men just don’t
have the patience to put up with females and their indecisiveness when they’re
in the mall shopping. Some women will take as long as twenty to forty minutes
just to choose between a white bra and a bone colored one or if it’s a Playtex
or a Warner’s. Then they’ll take an hour to choose between six different pairs
of heels after trying them on.
That’s no place for a Real Man.
This Chinese man who killed himself clearly was a “Nice Guy”/SIMP
to me. All the signs in this case point to a man with limited social skills. A
man who couldn’t set boundaries with a woman. A man who let a woman walk all over
him like a doormat. A man who couldn’t say NO to a woman.
This man probably was simmering and boiling in frustration
quietly for years like most “Nice Guys” and SIMPS do. And when his wife got
belligerent with him in public, he finally exploded in an outburst of angry
violence. First by ranting emotionally and throwing the merchandise seven
stories down, then by killing himself.
If only he had an intervention by Real Men, he could have
learned how to solve his problem without going to extremes.
Now a man who knew how to deal with women would have just left
her with all those bags and walked away from her after she said “one more store”.
Again, if she likes to shop till she drops, then it’s time to drop the woman.
Clearly, this woman is a gold digger who values the things she gets from a man
rather than the company of that man. To be that insensitive and inconsiderate
of his feelings shows how narcissistic and cruel she is.
But again, most men who have experience with women would
have just told her to go with her girlfriends. Some activities are guy
activities and others are girl activities. Things members of the opposite sex
do to bond with the members of their gender. Places no man should be at all.
Part of boundary setting for a man is saying the word NO. Saying
NO will not break a woman into a million pieces. Saying NO is a healthy part of
establishing boundaries for a relationship. It means that a man is saying what
he won’t tolerate from a woman.
And women who respect us will listen the first time when we
say NO to them. Too many “Nice Guys”, SIMPS and Manginas think saying NO to a
woman is akin to cursing them out.
When it’s exactly what they want to hear.
Most women find it sexy when a man says NO. It shows a man
has a backbone and testicles. It shows he has a healthy sense of self-worth. That
he values himself enough to say that his boundaries will not be broken and the
intangible line in the sand he established will not be crossed. When a man
shows that he sees himself as valuable, then that woman will see him as
valuable too.
I’m truly sorry for the loss of this poor fellow in China.
My condolences go to him and his family. But I believe there’s a lesson here
for men all over the world to learn from his death. Don’t be afraid to say NO
to a woman. And if she doesn’t respect you saying no to her, then It’s okay to
walk away from her. Because a man should never sacrifice his personal power
just to be in a relationship. You have a right to be happy too!
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