Washed-up single Black women over 30 often reinvent themselves with new personas. Many often parade around with over-the-top personalities like the artsy Boho chick, the Afrocentric Mother of Earth, The dedicated single mother and the Born again™ Christian.
But these new identities are just a deflection to keep people from seeing the truth about how ugly these women really were in their late teens and twenties.
The Washed-up single Black woman is oftentimes an over 30 woman who has been run through by all of the successful men in her neighborhood. She’s often the former hottie from high school or college, or the stuck up chick with the great body who thought she was too good for anyone but a man with money, a high profile career or a high-status job. At this stage in her life she’s gained some weight, had some kids or went through a nasty divorce. Sometimes she’s recovering from alcoholism or a substance abuse problem. Quite a few are bogged down in debt.
Washed-up Black single Women are a sepulture to good Black men. They look beautiful on the outside, but are filled with dead men’s bones on the inside. Many are carrying emotional baggage from previous failed relationships. Some are dealing with mental health issues. A few have kids from multiple fathers. And in a few rare cases she’s got incurable venereal diseases like herpes or HIV.
A Washed-up single Black Woman can easily be identified by her over-the-top behavior. She’s often the one to be a bit too passionate about things, even overzealous. For example, a Born Again™ Christian is the type to profess her love for Jesus loudly. She’s the type of woman to attend church every Sunday and is the one to be on all the committees. She’s never seen without her Bible. She ministers and witnesses to just about everyone she runs into telling them about Jesus.
However, when someone pushes her buttons (or just has enough money), she’ll quickly revert to her old behavior showing all how sinful she really is.
An Afrocentric Mother of Earth is usually one to talk passionately about how Africa is the Motherland and how Black women are the Mother of all the World. She’s the type to be a vegetarian and talk about health and spiritualism. She’s the one running around always wearing dreads, a dashiki, or other afrocentric wear. She’s the one talking about going back to the motherland even though she’s often carrying all her wonderful American creature comforts like ipods, cell phones and talks about cable TV shows like Sex and the City.
Offer her a ticket to a land like the Sudan or one of those starving African homelands and she’ll protest that she’s needed here in America to make people aware of the plight of her people.
A Boho Chick is the type to talk about the arts with all her soul. She’s the type to be into acting singing, or dance, sometimes all of them at once. Some will even paint too. She’s the kind of chick who likes to wear vintage clothes from different eras that don’t go with each other. Or she wears all Black; it’s a form of artistic expression.
Boho Chicks are known for being pretentious and artsy. They’re love to use big words and are very well cultured in literature and art. Some are so intelligent that they can tell you all about the nuances in a story or be so deep that they need a translator to figure out whatever they’re saying. They usually have hustles like art shows, one-woman shows and poetry jams. Or they’re working on financing an independent film or a stage play that never gets finished.
The use of these unique looks are cues are to get a man’s attention. Since men are visual, many are often caught up in the distinct appearance of these women that they don’t listen to what they say or even pay attention to the small details they get wrong.
When a man pays attention to those minute details he soon finds that while the outside has changed the inside is still the same. Watch their actions because it defines how little has changed about their character.
A washed-up Black woman can also be identified by her use of shaming tactics. She’s the one to vehemently point out the wrongs of others while placing herself on a pedestal as the paragon of virtue or a Guru of great knowledge. She hopes that by projecting her guilt onto other people they won’t see her flaws.
Most children can see through these washed up chicks. And most savvy adults if they pay attention to them.
Once one breaks past the false façade they soon find that these washed-up Black women are just the same old gold diggers looking for a new mealticket. With all their prospects of snagging a high-profile man exhausted they’re settling for a new guy at the bottom. Preferably a thirsty SIMP with nice fat wallet and a pension that will take care of them in their old age.
Which is why good hardworking Black men have to watch out.
Good Black men have worked too hard to build themselves up to have all they’ve established torn down by these female scavengers. All these parasites are going to do is leech onto a man and suck the life out of him until he dies or runs out of money, whichever comes first.
Brothers, remember that these were the same women told you that you weren’t good enough to deal with back in the day. They aren’t worth your time right now. Don’t settle for being some washed up old Black woman’s second choice. You deserve better than being second best. Keep on walking and don’t look back.
Brothers, remember that She made the mess of her life. so let her put on some coveralls with her run over Jimmy Choos and let her clean it up. You worked too hard to achieve success in your careers to be some woman’s Pullman Porter. Life is too short to deal with someone else’s garbage.