There are women who willingly choose to pursue affairs with men who are either married or are already in committed relationships with someone else. Some people call these women mistresses. But Shawn calls them Side Pieces.
For most men, a side piece is a woman who is in between a prostitute and a girlfriend. She’s a woman he goes to get some ass when his wife won’t have sex with him. Or someone he goes to go where he can get sexual acts performed on him that his wife won’t do like oral sex, anal sex, bondage, S&M, role playing or other fetishes.
And for a few others, she’s someone he goes to get away from a nagging or contentious wife who verbally abuses him. A voice of reason that will listen to him. Someone who he thinks appreciates him for who he is. Someone who he thinks won’t take him for granted. The relationship between a man and his Side Piece can be either very cold or very close depending on what man a woman gets involved with.
No matter how intimate the relationship is it’s still cheating.
How does a woman become a Side Piece? Some become side pieces by hanging out with their best friend’s husband or their husband’s sister. Others by working closely with a boss or a co-worker. A few by meeting in a bar, a club or some other social event. And some are just gold diggers who go out looking for married men to have relationships with. People talk, hang out, and form a connection with other. The chemistry swirls and…Soon boundaries are broken and they wind up in a relationship with someone other than their wife or girlfriend. But usually the “other woman” knows that the man she’s involved with is taken.
And she still chooses to pursue him. Either way, a ho is still a ho.
Usually in exchange for her time (and her body), most men offer the Side Piece money, or things like houses, cars, shoes or clothes. Because these exchanges of gifts for sex are within the confines of a relationship it’s not considered prostitution. And technically it isn’t. But both parties usually know they’re in the wrong.
Most men justify having a Side Piece by saying it’s complicated. Others by saying she’s cheaper to keep than a prostitute. And a few justify it by saying it’s a lot cleaner because they know that the woman they’re getting involved with is usually drug and disease free. And that’s true, if that woman isn’t sleeping around with other men.
Even some wives justify their husband having a Side Piece because they feel that they know where he is and who he’s sleeping with. These are usually older established women indifferent to their husband’s affairs. At their age they know that relationships with Side Pieces are often short-term, not long-term and are often no threat to their financial security. In most cases a man will never leave his wife for a mistress. It’s just cheaper to keep the wife than to divorce her and break up his home.
Even though being a side piece is considered immoral there are some unwritten rules for women to follow in engaging in sex with another woman’s man or her husband. These rules include:
Knowing that the risk for veneral disease is HIGH. As A Side Piece, you are sleeping with a man who is sleeping with another woman. And maybe he’s sleeping with someone else.
Compound this to the men the Side Piece is sleeping with (On the Side) and there’s a lot of other people’s penises going into other people’s vaginas. So even with condoms, the chances of catching a veneral disease are higher than in a committed relationship.
Understanding this is a short-term thing The Side piece relationship is usually a short-term thing. While a few men have relationships with their mistresses for years, this is the exception, not the rule. Most guys who get involved with a Side Piece just go to her to work through some problems, get their nut off a couple of times and move on to the next woman. Or they go back to their wives or girlfriends. So women who choose to become a side piece shouldn’t go into it looking for commitment.
Knowing that the relationship can end at any time for any reason. A woman who agrees to become a Side Piece has to understand that it’s usually all about sex for the man they’re involved with. This is why a woman shouldn’t get too comfortable with any man she’s having an affair with. Don’t get accustomed to the gifts, the money or even the dick. It can end at any time for any reason.
Knowing that he has no emotional connection to you. One of the big mistakes women make when agreeing to become Side Pieces is getting emotionally attached to the men they involve themselves with. Because most women invest their emotions into sexual relationships, they don’t understand that men who are using them as side pussy are only interested in what’s between their legs, not what’s between their ears. Most of these guys tune you out when you’re talking.
Knowing if he says he loves you he’s FULL OF SHIT. If you’re a Side Piece and a man says he loves you, chances are that he’s lying. Or he’s just a Simp strung out on pussy. But once the magic spell of the coochie wears off on him, he’ll realize he wasn’t in love with you. He was just in love with getting in your panties. Don’t fall for the game. This relationship is still all business for him.
Know that all promises made to you mean NOTHING. Some women think that a man has to adhere to his promises to buy them gifts when they’re a Side Piece. What they don’t understand is that because they’re in an illegal or immoral relationship, he doesn’t have to do anything for her. So all of his promises are Null and Void the minute he says them. Once he gets the pussy he can walk out and give you NOTHING.
Any woman who agrees on a Side Piece needs to understand: You are only there to provide sex for him. And if you provide sex to him and he doesn’t give you anything…Well, that’s on YOU. That’s why seasoned hoes are smart enough to know to get their jewelry, clothes, and cash up front before dropping their panties.
Get the money up front. A Side Piece, or a Mistress is just another Ho at the end of the day. The only difference is that instead of turning tricks with multiple men you’re exchanging pussy for cash and gifts with one man exclusively. And if you’re going to be an exclusive Ho to one trick stop playing around and get the money up front like professional escorts do. If you’re going to put a price tag on your vagina, then get top dollar for it.
Feeling bad when people call you a HO. If the shoe fits, then it belongs on your foot. Don’t feel bad when people call you a Ho. Just because you’re exchanging sex for cash and gifts with one man doesn’t make you less of a prostitute. Because basically you’re doing the same job hookers do on the street corner or at the escort service. Only you probably get paid a lot less.
He is not taking care of you. He is taking care of his access to pussy. Some Side pieces think that because their men put them up in homes or apartments that they're being taken care of.
He is taking care of his access to pussy by putting you on retainer. That apartment he's putting you up in, those clothes he's buying you and that luxury car he's letting you drive are all a way to maintain access to what's between your legs. He's given you a lifestyle upgrade so he can have a woman who will be ready to have sex with him whenever he wants and who will do whatever he wants.
Not understanding that this is sex on demand. As a Side piece you are agreeing to be his exclusive POD (Pussy on Demand) on call ready to serve him ass 24 hours a day, seven days a week. So if he calls at 2 AM and wants some ass it’s your job to give it to him when he shows up at 2:55. If you're going to be a Side Piece, just make sure to keep your vagina fresh and clean. Take plenty of baths and keep your body tight by going to the gym. Do Kegel exercises every day. Because you never know when you'll be called up to serve up the poontang pie.
Even though his wife knows you’re involved with him it doesn’t mean you’re in an esteemed place. Some Side pieces think because the wife or the girlfriend knows about the affair that things are fine. That it gives the relationship some semblance of normality.
It doesn’t change the fact that you’re still a ho at the end of the day.
Some wives resign themselves to affairs because they have other emotional investments like their kids and don’t want to put them through the drama and stress of a divorce. Others have large financial investments in their husbands’ job or business and would just rather wait for him to die to get the estate. And a few have another man as their Side Action and are getting their pussies pounded by him instead of their husbands. She doesn’t mind because you don’t matter.
Knowing all his promises to leave his wife are BULLSHIT. Some of the more Simpish men who have Side Pieces often promise to leave their wives to string them along in the hopes of keeping the free supply of pussy flowing.
These promises are nothing but LIES.
He’s never leaving his wife. And he has no reason to. Why? This is what you signed up for when you agreed to become his Side Peice. The terms and conditions of that agreement were for sex, not love.
Knowing a Side Piece will never become a Wife. Another common mistake women make in becoming a Side piece is investing in the delusion that one day he’ll leave his wife and marry her.
Sorry, but that’s not going to happen. EVER. He is NEVER going to put a ring on your finger.
Women who agree to become the Side Piece are usually relegated to that position PERMANENTLY. Now there may be a few thirsty Simps who do divorce their wives and marry their mistresses, but it’s extremely rare. A woman can wait for YEARS for a man to leave his wife pining for a more permanent relationship with him, but it’s just wasting their time.
Most men who have a side Piece has her there for gratifying his sexual needs. And if he’s getting pussy from the Side woman for free while he’s married then what incentive does he have to put a ring on the Side Woman’s finger? Why would he be STUPID enough to make the Side Woman his wife when he already has her giving him free, no-strings pussy as his mistress?
Getting pregnant doesn’t get you anything but 18 years of misery. Some of the more emotionally attached Side pieces try to force a commitment to their men by getting pregnant. They think he’ll leave whoever he’s involved with to go be with her to take care of the baby.
When a woman signs up to be a Side Piece she needs to understand she is signing on for a TEMPORARY
SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP. And in that relationship all you’re going to get is FUCKED. No amount of children you have for him will make him COMMIT TO YOU. At the end of any pregnancy, all a Side Piece is going to be stuck with is a kid that looks like the man they had an affair with, and 18 years of headaches trying to get that man to have a relationship with that child and her.
Getting upset when he cheats on you. Some Side pieces who become emotionally invested in men get upset when they find out they’re not the only one he’s seeing. Yes, there are cases where a man cheats on the woman he’s cheating with…With another woman!
And on finding out about the cheating, these women just lose it. Not understanding that Karma is kicking her in the clitoris. Seriously, why get upset? This is his nature. If he’s cheating with you, chances are he’s gonna cheat on you.
Telling his wife or girlfriend will not change the fact that you’re a HO. Some women who become frustrated about being a Side Piece try to escalate the relationship into a deeper commitment. When that fails, they threaten to tell the girlfriend or wife. And when they do tell the girlfriend or wife they expect sympathy. Then they get upset when they don’t get any.
They don’t deserve any. In fact they deserve any tounge lashing or ass whooping given to them. You deserve it. Why?
BECAUSE YOU ARE A HO.
At the end of the day you are still having an affair with someone else’s man. You were the one exchanging your vagina for gifts, trips and cash.
And the only reason you told on him wasn’t about redemption or atonement. It was spite pure and simple. You’re just mad that the man you got involved with won’t commit to you the way he does his wife or his girlfriend.
And why should he? He never agreed to commit to you. You agreed to be the Side Piece. And a Side Piece relationship is no strings, no contracts, and no commitment. You can be dropped at any time for any reason.
When a woman agrees to become a Side Piece to a man she has to understand that she sells herself short. All she’s reducing her value down to is what she can get in exchange for vagina. No man is going to respect you. No man is going to commit to you. No man is going to care about you. Because if you make yourself into a ho, there’s no way he’s going to want you to be his housewife.