tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post3640337144197712811..comments2024-03-22T05:29:18.132-07:00Comments on Shawn James, Black Freelance Writer: WHAT WOMEN DON’T KNOW ABOUT BEING THE SIDE PIECEShawn Jameshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11712216572467743626noreply@blogger.comBlogger81125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-38771652274135151282014-09-24T07:04:14.463-07:002014-09-24T07:04:14.463-07:00Shawn, this article has helped me overcome persona...Shawn, this article has helped me overcome personal troubles of my own. I can totally relate to this and want to thank you for clarifying the air about these HOES!! I was very upset over a issue I have going on in my life and your writing really helped me put these type of women into perspective....SO THANK YOUAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-24937442901114179192014-09-16T17:20:38.361-07:002014-09-16T17:20:38.361-07:00Nd pls jux try being honest wif yourself. Wen u SP...Nd pls jux try being honest wif yourself. Wen u SPcs claim u cn b aloof n detached in d affair,u cn keep ur emotions @ bay huh?yu must b dumb,cos emotions give u notice b4 dey cme ryt? I dnt understand y a married man hittin on yu isn't a huge turn off. 98 % of d tym d man neva leaves his wife nd 2% of d tym dey do leave ts cos d wife makes no effort to keep him probably cos she'snt even aware he wasn't happy 2 begin with or cos she's indifferent or cldnt careless if he left. If a man is set 2 leave d wife 4 d mistress,and d wife makes up her might 2 kip d husband no bombshell mcgee sidepc cn get him except he's been hit wit African love voodoo which is common here in Nigeria. Way to xtinguish d fire on ur make-blv fantasy/love. Love isn't d foolish sweaty palms or increased heart rate shit for men dts lust/passion, True love for a man is a choice. A choice to stay wif d woman he took his vows wit even tho he knws her flaws,even tho she's changed,even tho she cnt fulfill his sexual fantasies (which he's usin u 4), a choice to stay wif his kids. Think it through please for your own sake.yinka(Nigerian)noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-53983387651991409092014-09-16T16:57:33.666-07:002014-09-16T16:57:33.666-07:00Sme sluts think dey cn end up being Olivia Pope in...Sme sluts think dey cn end up being Olivia Pope in Scandal. Damn even Liv didn't end up wif d man. <br /> Wot m jux sayin is wen we humans do tinz especially bad tinz we lyk 2 rationalize it in our minds and even give justifications no matter hw stupid it sounds jux 2 validate our wrong doins.<br /> Dating a married man wen u especially knw he's married,(even if he didn't tell u d signs r dere unless u choose 2 ignore it.) Shows how much you value your self worth in comparism to some passion, all for wot borrowed time,stds,being used,bottom priority xcept 4 sex,in event of death no recognitn's given to u,loneliness,potential embarrasment wen d finds out.<br /> Y do u tink dere r hardly ppl u cn tell wot u r doin SPcs,well cos evry1s goin2 judge u. Let's call it wot it is BAD regardless of ny foolish feelings u may hve.<br /> No one cares if d wife d worst wife on earth,its doesn't justify wot u r doin SPcs cos its up to d man to fix d marriage wit evrytin he's got or divorce her.<br /> Just get a sheet of paper n divide it wif a paper,write advantages of d affair on one syd nd disadvantages on d oda syd. Nw m talkin adv n disadv in both short term and long term. Its a lose-lose situation. If he won't put u first by marry u, then HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU,u are jux bein used as....well, a Sidepiece. Yinkanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-24758100367488291192014-09-16T09:50:48.209-07:002014-09-16T09:50:48.209-07:00What about beeing a second wife??? second wife con...What about beeing a second wife??? second wife consideres a WHO too???Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-86799786625716529042014-09-11T00:43:57.799-07:002014-09-11T00:43:57.799-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02241383551354639366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-58220914787946851602014-09-11T00:27:43.815-07:002014-09-11T00:27:43.815-07:00Dang granny a hoe! Lmfao! Dang granny a hoe! Lmfao! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02241383551354639366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-1583303470814157392014-09-11T00:23:38.928-07:002014-09-11T00:23:38.928-07:00You ladies are going to Hell! You ladies are going to Hell! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-86526875746686963932014-09-11T00:22:00.941-07:002014-09-11T00:22:00.941-07:00Amen!Amen!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02241383551354639366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-15729984925448640972014-09-09T07:02:56.325-07:002014-09-09T07:02:56.325-07:00Er...Maybe I'm trying to educate women so they...Er...Maybe I'm trying to educate women so they don't throw away the best years of their lives on a LOSER who doesn't have the BALLS to COMMIT to her in MARRIAGE.<br /><br />Most women who dumpster dive for dick don't know what they're getting into with these married men. And how much TIME they WASTE hoping, wishing, and praying they COMMIT to them when the man is showing he isn't LOYAL from day one. If you cheat with someone, you'll cheat ON someone. <br />Shawn Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11712216572467743626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-24794448746441096732014-09-09T03:51:37.681-07:002014-09-09T03:51:37.681-07:00Does not knowDoes not knowAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-54714393959143716492014-09-09T03:50:54.622-07:002014-09-09T03:50:54.622-07:00Maybe you are unhappy with yourself and you're...Maybe you are unhappy with yourself and you're trying to bring down other people. <br /><br />I do, however, like that you've put down your opinion on what a side piece dies not know. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-78960586132435689152014-08-31T07:33:17.504-07:002014-08-31T07:33:17.504-07:00Good Gravy.
More shaming tactics from dysfunction...Good Gravy. <br />More shaming tactics from dysfunctional females. Marriages only become unhappy because the people stop being happy with themselves. <br /><br />If the shoe were on the other foot and YOU were the one being cheated on, I doubt you'd be justifying adultery. <br /><br />Remember this: What he did to HER he will do to YOU. Eventually, he'll stop being happy with you the same way he was with HER. <br /><br />A Side piece is a whore who sells herself short. She takes half a man in half a relationship instead of getting the full package with her own man. <br /><br /><br /><br />Shawn Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11712216572467743626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-78647735143383999222014-08-30T17:30:13.543-07:002014-08-30T17:30:13.543-07:00Hey shawn,
Stumbled into this article, As much a...Hey shawn, <br /><br />Stumbled into this article, As much as I trying to understand idealist perpective, I think u write from a place of deep hurt ,fear and lots pent u anger.<br /><br />I need you to be less myopic and realise that life isn't always black and white. Do u know how many unhappy marriages there is out there? Do you know what it means to live with someone you don't feel anything for anymore and your there. Just because your bound by some legal documents? And yes because the cost of divorce will probably rruin your entire life! The other woman u call whatever you choose to in some instances is the source of this man's joy, not just for sex in exchange for nicer things of life but a deep emotional connection that just happened at the wrong time. A lot women get married and become less of the woman a man initially fell in love with and because nature abhors vaccum, the man must fill that gap......The women that know how to hold their marriages don't experience these things, the ones that don't know how to, I'm sorry, do actually risk loosing their men to some other woman... You call the man " A cheater, a liar, a this and that.......Have you never lied in your life? Before we mix things up, I am not tryring to say on this pages that dating a married man is the nicest exercise, but you have no right to judge ,label or condemn anyone! Life happens sometimes and you must not have 100 percent control over it! Life in all its forms is meant to be explore, the good , bad and ugly! Just be graceful enough to accept life in all its diffrent element instead of being extremly judgemental because of your own personal experience....... My favourite cousin dated a married man for years, they found love with each other, of course the wife was hurt at the time! Her husband left her married my cousin after dating her for 7 years, today , they have been happily married for 18 years! The former wife moved on, married some else eventually! We had a huge reunion party last years! My ccousin invited her husbands ex wife ! The toast was endless! Both parties are so happily married to differnet people whhom they genuinely love! All that seemingly condemmed act turned into a blessing in disguise! Just pray you have tthe strength to face life and deal! Not all these castigation and labelling! Life is deeper than this shalloww minded bitter perspectives your selling! Howver I am also not encouraging anyone to actively seek to take some one else's spouse but if life happens learn how to detect the silver lining! Because there's always a reason for everythiNg......Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-78418823370550831582014-08-20T05:39:06.036-07:002014-08-20T05:39:06.036-07:00You are a Hoe !!!! LolYou are a Hoe !!!! Lolstephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17857971798684665616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-13838084805372497362014-07-31T06:50:24.561-07:002014-07-31T06:50:24.561-07:00Sad part about the last comment is you have a marr...Sad part about the last comment is you have a married woman justifying adultery. <br /><br /><br />I wonder how she'd feel if HER husband was the one cheating. She probably wouldn't be so eager to justify side pieces doing whatever they wanted. Shawn Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11712216572467743626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-16640793581124154832014-07-31T06:26:30.819-07:002014-07-31T06:26:30.819-07:00^^^Ahhh...The shaming tactics and ad-hominem atack...^^^Ahhh...The shaming tactics and ad-hominem atacksthese hoes use to justify their adultery. Sticks and stones may break my bones but your words make me laugh.<br /><br /><br />If I wasn't telling the truth about YOU, you wouldn't be so offended. I love how these hoes love to come back at me with you're not getting laid. Like sex is the only solution to all the world's problems. Side Pieces have lead with their pussies because they have ABSOLUTELY NO PERSONALITY. Otherwise, they'd be able to get their own man ather than sharing someone elses'.<br /><br /><br />The fun part about these hoes is watching them waste the best years of their lives pining for another woman's man and then getting NOTHING in return. <br /><br />While you dumpster dive for dick, and promises that will never be kept the world will pass you by.<br /><br />Then when they're 35-40, watching them head over to the slut graveyard called Online Dating or the Personals. Jab at me all you want but Time is not on your side. Shawn Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11712216572467743626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-74225703380036675142014-07-30T21:15:05.387-07:002014-07-30T21:15:05.387-07:00And if you look like your art then that's why ...And if you look like your art then that's why you not getting laid and your so bitter. Instead of writing about what other people do and what you claim you have never been through, write about something you have concrete knowledge about. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-32126452490363750272014-07-30T21:11:36.482-07:002014-07-30T21:11:36.482-07:00Wow. This dude is an ass but he is entitled to his...Wow. This dude is an ass but he is entitled to his opinion. If you are a side piece and you enjoy it then it's your life to live and who cares what people say. If your a wife that's pissed watch some porn or something and get your sex game up. Learn how to communicate. Bottom line is as wives we sometimes get comfortable and start to neglect our marriages. What we did in the beginning to get that husband we stop doing. Be spontaneous, outgoing, loving, a friend and a freak. Fill all the shoes then your man won't look elsewhere. I've been a side piece and heard my married man complain about all these issues and I have been married for 4 years and you better believe I know my man's every move. And he is the one that keeps me posted to and from work he's on the phone with me. Even if he's with his friends he's calling like crazy...... doesn't mean he can't cheat but I am confident that he doesn't. Don't blame a side piece for destroying a relationship. A married couples relationship is already in trouble if the man finds it necessary to look elsewhere. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-48516705808702080402014-07-18T14:13:55.584-07:002014-07-18T14:13:55.584-07:00Hey Shawn James I love your article and have never...Hey Shawn James I love your article and have never been a side piece nor will i ever I think its pretty disturbing for these women most of them side pieces and be ok with it And are not taking your advice as a man yourself they need to take into account that men are like this regardless of the fact if these so called side pieces, if thats what they call themselves, are around for years and getting just enough to stay around who in their right mind would be desperate enough to degrade their worth in such a way when that man dies the sidepiece doesn't get nothing you can have the same with a single man and infact more because at least he will stay with you every night its quite disturbing for me to read all these lost souls committing about how they sleeping with a married man you women need to find jesus if you knew no man can love you or take better care of you then jesus then you wouldn't be so easy to sleep with a man who is just using you Jesus loves you remember that while your settling for less maybe you do better if you knew betterAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-1510288434463430432014-07-14T08:29:45.242-07:002014-07-14T08:29:45.242-07:00What about them? YOU'RE STILL A HOE!What about them? YOU'RE STILL A HOE! Shawn Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11712216572467743626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-45032732573347250042014-07-14T07:17:13.116-07:002014-07-14T07:17:13.116-07:00What about the sidepiece who is genuinely in love ...What about the sidepiece who is genuinely in love with the married man and wants no gifts, money or meals? Not even regular sex. Sometimes the pleasure of loving sex, other times long kisses and other times simply looking into each others eyes. There is something magical about falling in love. It's a constant torture wondering if it is worse giving up this love to find someone single you like a lot less, or letting it carry on being sad all the time because you can only have limited moments in time to share with the person you love. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-56758393554656985612014-07-09T19:47:37.944-07:002014-07-09T19:47:37.944-07:00This dude??? sounds too emotional,
sarcastic and i...This dude??? sounds too emotional,<br />sarcastic and illogical in his responses to commenters to be taken seriously. He probably has some deep seated mommy issues that he's never addressed or have had resolved. Sad. His thoughts, words, tone and ... spirit resonates as someone who is very negative and evil at heart. This is no shaming on his part just Truth. His spirit is off and that's the only thing that should be taken seriously in this article (rant).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-85989271091579407712014-07-01T21:19:40.252-07:002014-07-01T21:19:40.252-07:00If The side chick is considered the hoe, what is ...If The side chick is considered the hoe, what is the wife who choose to stay with the cheating husband? The home couldn't be that happy when the wife know her husband is spreading his wings. <br /><br />However, if a single woman was dating a single man and that person is giving and getting all the same benefits (sex,money, etc.) are they still considered hoes? If not, then what are they??? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-35743726393332410672014-06-30T18:18:56.288-07:002014-06-30T18:18:56.288-07:00He wasn't married at first did u read the whol...He wasn't married at first did u read the whole thing? Im asking u based off the history we had and me not marrying him when he said he was ready to settle down so are u saying its my fault because I didn't believe him? And in regards to child support ur suggesting I file even though he is already taking care of her financially? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5121130217304877410.post-2196664294583416852014-06-29T07:48:08.281-07:002014-06-29T07:48:08.281-07:00So we continued our relationship he eventually sep...So we continued our relationship he eventually separated and stayed with me during the week and went home on the weekend to spend time with his kids until he found out I was pregnant and threatened to end the relationship if I kept it..I kept my baby and found out later that his wife couldn't have kids any more and was pissed at the idea of me keeping the baby because it would hurt her..he left and went home to her and after a few months was back trying to be with me our daughter is 2 now and heloves her and takes care of her spends time with her as well..however me and him are still messing around he gets angry if I try to cut it off but just this past year he hasn't talked about us being together but expresses how much he loves me says he loves us both differently and does not want to ruin his family the wife is still in love with him and is not giving up..I finally ended it 2weeks ago, I am truly depressed and saddened by this..<br />any advise Shawn and whats your take on this situation was he really in love with me and did I mess up by not marrying him when he first asked? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com